Is it truly Valentine’s week at KIS? Is it truly KISRAK week? It’s hard to believe so when – too often – the sight of sleep-deprived, brain-dead students milling around the campus is omnipresent during such a (supposedly) delightful holiday week. Too often the thought of affection is obscured by our other worries. How do we show our affection? How do we show our friends that we truly do care about them more than our APs and GPA? And more importantly, do we show it enough?
According to the wise words of Joonyon Park (’15),
“I simply believe the amount of time committed towards a person equates to the level of affection given. The more time you spend thinking, giving, and sharing with them, the more love there is between you and them. You start caring, together.”
‘Affection’ depends on the person. We all have our different ways of showing affection, ranging from sentimental to tear-jerking to quirky. Here are what some of the most affectionate people of KIS had to say about their charming and warm-hearted ways of showing affection:
“When I’m expressing care and love for my friends I hug them very often and literally tell them I love them on a daily basis. They tell me that I’m really annoying when I do that but I know they return the affection deep inside… at least I hope so.” – Sara Kim (’18)
“I do things before they ask because I’d already have known exactly what they need/want. I’d carefully choose my words when talking to them to not hurt them in anyway. I’d look them in the eyes just to assure them that I am fully drawn into what they have to say.
P.S. OLIVIA IS AVAILABLE.”
– Olivia Kim (’16)
“To me it all starts with language. How do you show affection though language? How do you express your true feelings to someone, show your appreciation, show your love?
Small notes left behind, quick text messages sent, welcoming words at the door when the person you love arrives home.
Truly looking into a person’s eyes and telling them how much they mean to you, how much your life would be incomplete without them. How much happiness they bring to each day. How you can’t wait to have dinner together during breakfast, how you’re excited about the next trip together, how you love listening to their stories.
Then you hug, or kiss, or smell their hair. That’s affection.”
– Mr. van Moppes
Even the little things count…
“I try to talk more with them… and if I really care about someone I will listen more carefully to their worries and problems.”
– Austin Kim (’16)
“I’m not good with mushy stuff so it’s generally trying to do little things that aren’t super sentimental but are thoughtful, like a good luck note before a dreaded test etc.”
– Stephanie Yang (’15)
In the end, it truly are the simple things that matter. The little pick-me-ups that help you get going- whether its a brief smile or a “good luck.” Affection reminds us that someone will always be by your side to help you carry on. Take some time this week (or really, any week) to really savor such moments, to truly show how much you care.